Last night, I posted this status on my Facebook page:
And I received an overwhelming response from other wives!
You see, the past week has been CRAZY. The kids were sick–The Princess was being monitored for dengue so we had to keep going back to the hospital for lab tests while The Little Man was down with the flu. I was loaded with work; and Arjay was swamped as well. By the weekend, we were exhausted and longing for a break, which of course, we couldn’t take because the minis were still sick.
I feel bad that my husband had to text me to ask me out on a date. I’ve been on my laptop and phone the whole week already, trying to get all my work done. I feel even worse because I turned down his request since I was feeling under the weather after a week of no sleep.
So, I shared the screenshot of my hubby’s text message to know if other wives are experiencing the same thing…you know, not having time for their husbands.
I was surprised to know that many other wives share the same sentiment. As much as we’d like to have regular date nights, it’s hard to find time with work and the kids to think of. I know we’ve always been advised that we should go out on a date with our husband at least once a week, but that’s easier said than done. I used to give that advise on this very blog before…but that was when Arjay and I only had The Princess. With two little ones, it’s much harder to find time.
Don’t get me wrong. We do try to bond every day–like coffee in our porch, or snuggling in bed before going to sleep. But that’s it. What we miss are our real coffee dates, movie dates, and fancy dinners with just the two of us. We don’t blame the kids for not being able to spend time with each other, though. We love these minis to bits. But we do wish we could go out–just us–some time soon!
How often do you go out on dates with your husband/wife? And how do you manage to find the time?
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This stage really happens to couple especially with young kids. We been through this also and when we both realized that we need to make an effort to give time for couple’s only date, our relationship became much stronger.
We plan on 2x a month dates which are more realistic for us. But then again, we really, really have to make the time for it! Hirap noh, and we only have 1 little boy! I can imagine how hectic life will be when there will be more kiddos for us!
ang hirap na ata mag date minsan pag mag asawa at may anak na. Totoo mas masaya kapag buong pamilya, pero nakakamiss din syempre yung dati nyong ginagawa nung couple palang kayo.
Pero agree ako sayo kim kailangan talaga ng mag-asawa ng quality time. Sa ngayon ang quality time namin is movie marathon while eating habang tulog ang maliit. =)
Yes, that’s our kind of quality time too. But like you said, nakakamiss yung mga date nights talaga. 🙂
Only recently we made a pact to go out just the two of us every other week. If finances is generous, once a week. But I understand you because you don’t have nannies for the lil ones. It’s really hard to seek time for only the two of you…
It’s hard to find a nanny we can trust din kasi. Iniisip na lang namin, the kids’ stage of wanting to be with us all the time will pass so we just need to enjoy it now. 🙂
I actually miss our sweet-date nights, gig dates and trips together. Now that we have a little Nini to look after, we need to prioritize her first. So, syempre, kasama na siya sa date namin. Which is okay naman since kailangan rin mag budget, hehe.
You know what else is great? Yung, you get to appreciate simple things in life like movie marathons, food trips and walkathon with the little one and you can see the big smile on your husband’s face. Priceless. Though, I still want to have a decent and quiet date with him. Hihihi.
I don’t mind our movie marathons and date nights “in” with the kids. But still, I think we ought to make time for a real date night at least once or twice a month. 🙂